“The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago; the second best time is now” -old Chinese proverb
Yesterday, I pulled my little number, as usual, and found that the question for today is #57: A year from now, what will you wish you had started today? After thinking about this for the last day, as I do, I have come to the conclusion that this may very well be the most important question in this book.
This question was contributed by Misty Bastian Trammel, who lives a new-age hippie life in Oregon with her husband Jeffrey and two beautiful little girls. She told me she was, “doing the usual regrets one day, wishing I had done something earlier (probably start a diet) and it occurred to me that if I didn’t do something about it NOW, I would have the same feelings of regret later. Not exactly an epiphany but It did stick with me and has been helpful in getting me motivated to start a few things. It works with short term goals as well. Asking yourself what you’ll regret tomorrow or next week if you don’t start it today can give you a push in the right direction. The Now is always the best time to get going on the things you’d like to do.”
So true. And like Misty says, it doesn’t have to be a big thing either. Even a slight change in your daily habits can, over time, result in a major change in the trajectory of your life path. You can never predict the results of the change either because one tiny adjustment in the way you walk through your day may lead to something completely unexpected that has a lasting result.
I can think of so many examples. I remember a woman once telling me about the decision she made to get rid of her television. When I spoke to her, she and her husband were leading workshops on simple living and she would actually trace out the impact that that one small change had made on their lives; the massive amounts of money they saved as a result of spending less because they were not inundated with subtle ‘buy this’ messages, a better marriage, more health because they started spending time walking and cooking healthy food.
Think of some other tiny habit that you could change that might have some long-term impact. Suppose you started a writing practice? Suppose you got up half an hour earlier every day and read or meditated for half an hour? Suppose you chose to get rid of one piece of physical or emotional clutter every day (a coincidence that my other blog is on that very topic)? Suppose you started your day with a peaceful walk in your garden drinking a glass of water instead of grabbing a coffee and running out the door to work? That’s what I did last winter. I started getting up, putting on my big down coat, getting a glass of water and my big boots and walking my back forty two or three times. Okay so my back forty is just the number of steps that it takes to walk from the edge of my deck to my big Colorado spruce about halfway down my backyard, but that very quiet and peaceful start to my day was a very pleasurable daily ritual.
Back in 2005 when I was going through a terrible time, I started to journal. It started on a whim. One morning as I was getting ready for work I had Canada AM on and I heard a man talking about his battle with cancer. He said at one point in his treatment that he thought to himself, “I can make a choice. I can go on feeling this bad, I can die, or I can choose to live.” He chose to live and that was twenty-five years before. In 2005, he was 75. I thought, “In 25 years, I’ll be the same age. Do I want to feel this bad for 25 years? Or do I want to be happy.” I sat down and started journaling and I journaled every day for months after that. Within a week of starting to journal, my life was starting to turn around. Was it because of the journaling? I don’t know but I know that I now have a record of my journey from desperation to happiness. I still journal although not every day and I love to go back and read old entries.But back to the question: A year from right now, what will I wish I had started today? This implies that it’s an ongoing thing. I could start all kinds of things but probably the one that would make the biggest long term impact on my life would be if I started to eat healthier and started to exercise. It doesn’t even have to be a huge change. I could start gradually and let my success with that lead to the next step. I could begin right now with a healthy breakfast and a big glass of water. I could begin with taking the dog for a walk. Even a small change could lead to a potential weight loss of just half a pound or a pound a week—small change unless you remember that is 25 lbs or 52 pounds over the year. That could have all kinds of residual effects: less blood pressure meds, an increased likelihood of taking on some exciting new hobby like mountain climbing (okay, maybe not).
That is my answer and my commitment: to start eating healthier, drinking more water, and moving more. We’ll see what transpires.